In recent months I have been struggling with the identities (labels) of
Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Introverts. Which one am I? Am I both?
If I’m both, what is the correct label for me?
I have been using the label of Highly Sensitive Introvert. Is this
correct? I don’t know because I’m still unable to make clear practical
distinctions between the two labels because both groups share many
common traits. Additionally, of the four online tests I’ve taken; I
score very high on being an HSP and an introvert. By the way, my Briggs-Myers personality type is ISFJ (introverted, sensing, feeling, judging.)
In my research over the last several weeks, I have re-read 7 books on
Highly Sensitive People and introverts. Guess what? Surprisingly, I learned more about
my high sensitivity from reading the books on introverts. To be honest
though, there are for more books written about introverts than there are
about HSPs. Listed below are some reasons why there is confusion:
- 15-20% of the American population are HSPs
- 30-50% of the American population are introverts
- 70% of American HSPs are introverts
So, this means that some people are an HSP and an introvert. Note that there are far more introverts than HSPs. It also means that 30%
of all American HSPs are extroverts. It’s also obviously true that not all introverts are HSPs.
HSPs and high reactive introverts share some common triggers that overstimulate our central nervous systems. Some of the most common are:
- Crowds
- Chaos
- Loud or constant noise
- Bright lights
- Phone calls
- Unexpected visitors
- Interruptions while we are working
- Constant and/or loud talking
- Small talk
- Tardiness
- Someone looking over our shoulder when we are working
- Deadlines
- People not respecting our personal space
- People not respecting our natural sensitivities
- Aggressively assertive, loud, in-your-face extroversion
- Unstructured environments
- The absence of order, schedules and routines
Sophia Dempling, author of The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World introduces
the possibility that HSPs may actually be a segment of the much larger
introvert community. This concept mutualizes both groups and provides a
foundational platform for our shared traits while acknowledging
respective differences. Without a doubt, more research and clinical
studies are needed in this area before any scientific determination can
be made.
The single largest commonality among HSPs and introverts is that most
people rarely understand us and our natural psychological and behavioral
traits. Our quietness unnerves them to the point that many don’t trust
us. They think we are always up to some covert mischief or that we
despise them.
In western societies, after all, extroversion is highly admired and
richly rewarded. It’s the perception of most extroverts that it’s unnatural for
HSPs and introverts to be so quiet and reserved. Most extroverts
readily judge us as being antisocial because we aren’t partying
every weekend or socializing with friends or family several times a
week.
Extroverts fail to recognize that highly sensitive people and introverts
are not antisocial, we just prefer to socialize with another close
friend or two rather than having meaningless chit-chat with many people
in a chaotic and noisy group setting. Our senses become so overwhelmed
with the chaos and noise that many of us just shut down until we get a
chance to process what’s going on around us and to recharge our
psychological energy with some solitude.
HSPs and introverts don’t dislike people. We just dislike being around
many people at once or for an extended period of time. There is too much disorder, too many people talking
at once, too many ill-mannered, back-slapping extroverts with their
unwanted noses in our affairs, and too much fake niceties. These social
environments and behaviors literally makes us ill … physically, mentally
and emotionally. This is our nature.
There isn’t anything wrong or broken with HSPs and introverts. We don’t
need fixed. We don’t need to be mocked. We don’t deserve to be disliked.
We just need to treated and recognized fairly. All through history
every empire has needed warriors. They also needed the thinkers for
their ability to think through the consequences of any action.
Extroverts have always been the warriors … people of action. Introverts
have been the successful thinkers and planners. Societies need both.
Personally, because I exhibit so many shared traits between HSPs and
introverts; I’m just going to start telling others (and only when
needed) that I’m a highly sensitive introvert.
Gee, I’m glad that’s settled … for the moment anyway.
